Advocates Advocating Christine Thelker © 2020 Dementia Event For This I Am Grateful Good Grief Living well with Dementia Silver Linings Stress


Photo by Eunice Lui on

Time is Precious, Time is fleeting, time heals all, time stands still, time goes to fast. But does it, or have we over time just convinced ourselves that all those things to be true. The sun comes up, the sun goes down, the seasons change, those things have since the beginning of time remained the same, so then time has changed nothing, we have changed and adapted time, what it is and what it does to suit our lives.

Life events change us, some say many of life’s events make us stronger and more resilient, or it breaks us, that what we need is time. I believe it is time that continues on and we just learn to continue life, absorb the events that happen in our life, and we life with them, yes the impacts may change and lesson, but they are still there, they have, will and do change us sometimes subtly, sometimes in not so subtle ways. We may become, kinder, gentler, more empathetic, more compassionate, we may become, bitter, angry, pessimistic, it is grace of healing that can and does help decide how the impacts will be. For the events don’t go away, they remain, a piece of the very fabric of who we are, it is the gift of time that allows us to properly absorb, process and manage the life events. Society has become so rushed, in such a hurry, trying to force us to not needing the time for proper healing. We hear often people say well you have to get over it, move on, its over, in fact it is not and every person no matter the event will find that event settle into being part of their life in a different time frame, in a different manner.

There was a time, when we did things by the rise and fall of the sun and moon, and by the changing seasons, then we decided to try to adapt things to get more time , change the clocks to get more time in a day, more daylight hours, more time to work, truly it is psychological, for the only thing that changed was the hands on the clock, the sun and moon still rose and fell as it always had.

Why or does any of this matter, I don’t really know, except that I do know that our lives over time, who we are, as to who we were changes over time. We only have so much control over any of it, some of life’s events are out of our control, others we are responsible for, how we manage those has more of an impact on how they will impact our lives over time than time itself.

One big life lesson, we always want more time, we always think we have time, Another time, next time…except the only time that is real is this time, this moment. How and what happens in this moment, will impact all the future moments we may have.

By WWW.Chrissy's

I am an advocate for people with dementia in Canada and globally, having been diagnosed with younger onset dementia myself a few years ago.

One reply on “TIME”

Christine, I couldn’t agree with you more. Anything that I have gone through or witnessed others go through remains with me forever unless my dementia will eradicate it. If everyone could “get over it” we wouldn’t be in the world we have now. Pain may lessen or fade away, people experiencing trauma and grief, it will always be there (remembering my mom and dad every week when going to the cemetery to care for the mini garden, missing them will never go away). We all move along, there isn’t much of a choice, but hopefully we have the family and friends to help us along so that we can still enjoy the beauty as well in the world. Not easy for some, some may never have that. If fortunate enough, what we experience will lessen with intensity in time. The wounds may never heal but in time, maybe a scar will form, a little reminder again that we are human and time is ours, but it is what we do with that time. Love you much, Debbie xoxoxoxo


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s