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Good Friday

It’s Good Friday and I think it’s a good day to be reflective to remember the past and to think about the future.

My Mom ( Margaret Weeden)

For me I think about my mom and as you can see in the pictures below Easter was a very special time. Mom raised us kids all on her own, we had a lot of time with my grandmother and my uncle who looked after my grandma his whole life and we were all very close. Easter was the time of going to church although we went to church every Sunday, Easter was special, it was about family and it was about being thankful and being grateful. Growing up we didn’t have a lot but what we did have a lot of love, we always had clean clothes and my mother always made sure we had food .She was a terrific gardener, her garden the size of most peoples lots that their houses sit on now, as well as fruit tree and various berry bushes. Everything was canned and frozen so that we never went without, we raised chickens and so we always had eggs we always had chicken to eat, she was she was an incredible woman who along with my grandmother taught us so much and ensured we laughed a lot. My uncle took on the role of doing all the fatherly type things with us we learned a lot from him and laughed a lot with him as well, all three are gone now, and they are always missed but every time Easter rolls around I think about all the Easter‘s where they went to all the trouble of putting together special things for us, hiding them out amongst the flowerbeds in the trees and bushes and we would have to go hunting for them. We were only to only take the one that was meant for us and leave the others behind without saying anything, in some peoples eyes there may not have been much there, for us it was everything and the most exciting day. ( perhaps why i still love treasure hunts) In those moments we had so much to be grateful for. As we got older my mother trying to ensure that upcoming generations got to enjoy some of those old traditions and learn some of that simple basic fun and joy and happiness dressed up every year in her bunny suit and all the kids in the community came and she bounced through the woods. The kids would get so excited to get a peak of the Easter Bunny and chase after her and she would be dropping little Easter treats all along the way and they had so much fun. It made for such an incredible time for families and community and I always remember my mom and think about how she along with my grandmother and my uncle taught us about the importance of doing what you can to make things better for others and share joy and happiness and that you don’t have a lot have to do it. Sometimes the simplest things are the biggest and best things, so during this time of lockdown and Covid and people feeling like their lives are so disrupted that there is nothing to enjoy. I say lets think outside the box get creative create new memories in new found ways, or go back to some old traditions think about your childhood think about what you did as a child think about all those things and enjoy and have a quiet reflective peaceful Easter weekend.

Mom Traveling with her Easter Basket full of goodies

I am grateful for the love of a woman who truly understood that finding in joy in life is always within reach. I am grateful that because of her, no matter what life has thrown at me I have been able to overcome, to continue to see the good in others. That I am able to face my challenges and have the ability to look for the silver linings. For it was my mother who taught me that there is always a Silver lining if you’re brave enough to look for it.

Wishing you all a Very Happy Easter.

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So much effort

So my last blog which I titled Maybe somehow only ended up with half the blog posting, can’t find the rest, even though I have it set to auto save, it has vanished, then it says my page isn’t there but it is, my Twitter account was hacked, all my devices having technical challenges, perhaps from being hacked not sure.
The world of technology can be so good until it’s not, I wonder if they will have find a way to simplify it for those of us who truly can benefit from it if it is all more user friendly.. The frustration sometimes makes me want to stop using it at all, but it is how I communicate, it’s how I visit, stay connected,. It allows me to take part in meetings, be involved with groups and organizations and gives me purpose.
My volunteer Angie is coming today, she may be able to help fix a lot of these issues with my devices. She has been such a huge help to me.
live been thinking a lot about my friends that live with dementia, and a tougher group you will not find. A happier group you will not find. The effort it takes every day to just manage the simple things takes more effort that most others can imagine, but then they do so many other things, they are learning new skills, they are advocating, speaking, involved in research projects that is at so many levels and different types, they write, sing, the are incredible artists. Mostly they are joyful. Despite all the frustrations, despite all the health challenges, they are joyful. They reach out and check in with one another.
we had a zoom with our friends in Japan the other night, and despite the language barriers ( and actually it truly isn’t a barrier), we do have an interpreter who comes, but we also can get much by the body language and facial expressions. We laughed, I was so excited to see them, we were supposed to see each other in Singapore last March, but of course Covid 19 thwarted that. So to have our zoom was so good for all of us.
What really stood out was how the things people living with Dementia, live with, deal with like the stigma, like the lack of resources, like lack of programs, the lack of proper resources from diagnosis and beyond.
we don’t get the benefits of palliative care, and palliative care is not just the last week or two of life, palliative care can and should encompass from diagnosis on, for with palliative care on board it can truly help you live a full life that is life of quality. But so many resources are passed by for those living with dementia, Occupational and Speech and physiotherapist, social workers, programs that a truly designed to engage, connect, and leave those living with dementia to feel valued and purposeful.
We also see to often people thrust into drug trials without proper follow up to ensure when things abruptly end or you have to be taken out that you are not left feeling devastated, and lost and without purpose, I believe we should be looking at all the ways to enable those with dementia to live their best life to stay in their homes for as long as possible, rather than tie them to the false hope (my view), of the cure, I think care until cure should be the focus, Dementia no matter what type, Alzheimer’s, FTD, Lewy Body, Mixed, Vascular, the types is long means that realistically finding a cure is almost impossible, that doesn’t mean they won’t find ways to help manage the effects of many types of dementia. It does mean that we should while trying to find those things place a much bigger emphasis on having the resources to help people manage their illness. People with Diabetes or MS, to name a couple, are taught how to manage their illness, we deserve to be given those same resources.
I have heard so often from so many since my diagnosis that they felt alone, that they didn’t think there was anything they could do, no one teaches them about the nutritional and exercise components, people are all to often left adrift. I believe that is why depression is so prominent in people with dementia, the complete lack of resources, the complete misunderstanding of the illness by the largest part of society. The lack of current education with health care professionals.
it makes me sad that after so many advocates fighting so hard for over thirty years so little has changed. Is it because many of the large Organizations have become “ big business”, on the backs of those living with the illness, that rather than help us actually see the changes happen, they do just enough to keep people opening their wallets to them, believing they truly are helping us, when in fact we see such a minimal amount of help, more often it is us helping them, we become their “ Poster People”, it makes people feel good about themselves, which that in and of itself is not a bad thing, but what is bad is that they are not paid, ( unlike all those working in those organizations”, who are paid to attend meetings, to attend conferences, to write articles, to deliver them. People with dementia are continually doing it for free, in part because they want to feel valued, they want to see change. But I often feel change is not coming because there is big money, it is big business for it to stay as it is.
We are ( those of us living with dementia) very aware of our end stage of this journey, but we sure want and fight hard everyday, to live the best lives we can until then. All those I have met globally are happy, bright and engaging, they share laughter and joy. Those are all the very things that are in complete opposition of what the world perceives. They are some of the most amazing people I have ever had the pleasure to meet, I stand in awe of them and all that they do.

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Tomorrow is International Woman’s Day

In light of it being International woman’s day tomorrow, I first want to give an update on me, yes me a woman who for 6.5 years has been doing all I can to use my voice to bring light to Dementia and all that it is and all that it isn’t.
So after my last five day stint in the hospital, I’m actually grateful as they are usually double that. I have many more appointments, tests, assessments during March and April. More things keep coming to light with each new piece, sometimes I wonder do I really want to know anymore? Do I even care anymore? Is it worth it to keep going through so much, when it will not change the eventual outcome? Yes these are questions I ask myself. One thing I have learnt in all of this is that it is better to be a realist that live with a false sense, so yes I need to know, yes I need to do these things, even though they take up much of what precious time there is, knowledge is power and if I want to continue to live my best life for as long as I can, then all the appointments and tests are essential so that I have the best knowledge I can, and my Doctors can so that together I can continue us to do my bucket list.
The big issues are my vascular system, when you have vascular disease, which is why I ended up with Vascular Dementia, there is a blood / oxygen flow problem. Those vascular issues are worsening, the blood flow to my organs are being impacted, resulting and explaining why I am getting intermittent times of feeling and functioning fairly well, to the crashes which leave me pretty much bed ridden if not hospitalized. It’s a lot to content with on top of the cognitive issues that make so many things more difficult know. I do less, much less. I am forever in that mode of starting over, fighting for those good days. But I am still here, so I am grateful for the things I am still managing to do.
Onto International Woman’s Day, a day we all whether we are woman or not should celebrate. Woman are the cornerstone of life, for without them, life would cease. We are or it is born into us part of our makeup, caregivers, we build the foundations of our families, and although much has changed over the years for woman those things are still largely true. But for my lifetime, I have watched as woman have tried to advocate for equality, to be paid equally to their counterparts, to be given the same opportunities and chances, and yet at 61 years old there has not been much change. Women are still undervalued and underpaid, passed over and looked over. “ The Old Boys Club” mentality still exists in too many circles. It bothers me because these same people are husbands and fathers, and yet they still accept these standards even for the woman in their lives. The “ pat on the arm or shoulder” doesn’t cut it, hasn’t for years, but then if that’s true we are we still having to fight so hard for equality. Yes men and woman are vastly different but their worth is not.
Then there is the Women and Dementia, woman are much more likely to be diagnosed with Dementia, please read Kate Swaffer’s Blog here https://kateswaffer.com/2021/03/08/international-womens-day-2021/?fbclid=IwAR1YSjqXX20YFipGgVhKXWW-MQ_0KRpTQtp_IodFYl80z3YJ8tBBB6X2YpU

I responded to Kates blog with these words “

As a widow. A woman, and living with Dementia this is so deeply and personally disturbing. As much as I try I can not understand how so many that see things, are aware of things find it acceptable to turn a blind eye#@chrissythelker”

It becomes increasingly difficult to understand why after so many years so much still is allowed to be acceptable or at least the blind eye approach is maintained as acceptable.
So for International Woman’s Day I want to urge you all to speak up for yourselves, for you daughter and your granddaughters, so that perhaps they will and can live in a world of full equality and inclusion.
I want to thank the remarkable strong woman, starting with my Grandma and my Mother for instilling in me strength and resilience, for it is the paths you walked, that were much more difficult than mine that started paving the way for woman to have a little more equality and rights, and know we and our children must carry the torch. To all the woman in my life who have inspired me, cheered for me, mentored me and walked along side me, thank you for sharing the journey of life and all that being a woman entails.


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Psychology of Aging

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Today I had the pleasure of doing an interview with Dr. Regina Koepp, below you will find info on her. The interview was delightful, we talked a lot about the important roll DAI has played in my life since diagnosis. She had read my book, she had a lot of great questions, we talked about the gift of friendship DAI has given me, about the ways it has helped me forge a new life for myself, a life filled with hope and purpose. We talked about the importance of the peer to peer support, self facilitated, where being accepted on your worst day, and your best are not something you worry or question, you just know the acceptance and support will be there. They helped me find my laughter.
It was a great 1.5 hours, it went so quick, we talked about advocacy, about the importance of enabling instead of further disabling , by allowing people with dementia do as much as they can for as long as they can, sometimes it’s easier to just do it for them, sometimes you think you’re helping them but in reality you are further disabling them.
we talked about the need for better collaboration between organizations, instead of competing, competing helps none of the organizations and absolutely does a disservice to people living with dementia. We talked about more efforts are needed to help support people to have a good quality of life, instead of just focusing on a cure. Care until cure, is the only way forward.
I am grateful she reached out to me. I’m glad there is people like Regina who are helping us have our voices heard.

please see Regina info below and check out the work she is doing.

About

Regina Koepp, PsyD, ABPP, is a board-certified clinical psychologist, gerontologist, and an assistant professor in the Emory University School of Medicine’s Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences. She is also Staff Psychologist at the Atlanta VA Health Care System (VAHCS), where she provides direct patient care and consultation on the Gero-Psychiatry Outpatient Mental Health team. 

Dr. Koepp serves on several national, regional, and institutional committees aimed at enhancing care and services for older adults and their families. These include the Geriatric Mental Health Field Advisory Committee of the VA Central Office in Washington, DC, and the Georgia Psychological Association’s Ethics Committee. She is also a founding member of the Diversity Education Committee for Psychology Training at the Atlanta VAHCS and she serves on the Diversity and Inclusion Subcommittee (DISC) in the Emory University School of Medicine’s Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences.

Dr. Koepp specializes in the aging process, care of older adults and their families, individuals and families experiencing life-altering conditions, chronic and terminal illness, dementia disorders, caregiving, traumatic loss, end of life, and grief and bereavement. She is also the creator and host of the Psychology of Aging Podcast in which she discusses the aging process and its complexities.

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My UFA guest piece

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Tired but not in the way one would think

My soul is tired, my heart is tired, physically I am getting stronger every day, it has been an exhausting 11 months, trying to regain so much that was lost during my illness unrelated to my dementia that struck in March. So although I am regaining physical strength, it is my heart and soul that are feeling a real deep sense of tiredness.

I feel bad because if I feel this tiredness in my heart and soul I can only imagine what my mentors and those before me must be feeling. Although we are very good at lifting each other up and encouraging each other to not quit to not give up, at times our souls, our hearts become so tired it’s hard to keep fighting, and fighting for things that should not even be relevant today but, yet years and years of advocating have done very little to change things.

Point of tiredness, an example if you will, back in December, maybe November, forgive my recall of dates, times, etc are not very good anymore, but I was attending a meeting, of an organization I was happy to take part in and be part of, I thought we could see some great things within our community. I still believe that to be true. But at that particular meeting someone from the Alzheimer Society here in BC did something, likely with no thought beforehand, that has left me and my soul tired. It affected me to the point that I have sat down to address it multiple times and couldn’t, I also couldn’t attend the meeting yesterday although I tried, I couldn’t bring myself to, this makes my heart tired. I often can’t talk about those things at the time, and my word-finding is more difficult, so I write about how things make me feel. So what may seem like nothing to most was huge and is one of the things those of us who advocate trying to make others understand and change.

So at this moment, I was asked in a chatbox, if I felt that nutrition and exercise played a role in dementia. I stated that I did and that there is much in regards to that knowledge. The person from the Alzheimer’s Society jumped in stating there was no scientific evidence to that end, totally discounting what I had said, making me feel humiliated and shut down. Then I sitting feeling angry but knowing it is never a good idea to respond when feeling anger. It was and is upsetting that over and over again we have to fight people who think they have all the knowledge when truth be told, they are merely paid employees of an organization and only know what that organization holds to be their truth unless they are willing to look outside the box from which they are fed. I could have responded and asked if she has ever bothered to actually do any research on it if she had ever bothered to go the World Health Organizations site and read what is there about this very topic if she has gone to any of the medical journals that are showing more and more the role the nutritional and exercise component plays in helping people maintain and live well with their dementia. This is not her area of work within the Alzheimer’s Society so not sure what she was basing such a statement on. But to discount someone else’s view, and leave someone feeling humiliated is totally inappropriate. It is why I always say at these types of meetings words matter. Had she asked me to elaborate on why I felt that to be true, it would have changed how I was left to feel. But this type of thing happens far to often.

The second thing I have run across recently, which in many was fabulous was attending a film festival hosted by Dementia Advocacy Canada, there were four short films, all of which were great and evoked a lot of different emotions. there was discussion after about the four films and I felt it was a great discussion, unfortunately, there was not enough time for some deeper discussion no fault of anyone’s time is precious and I hope at some point maybe we can have a further discussion around some points that were really glaring to me. It’s something that we see over and over again, and I am not sure if I believe any longer that in my lifetime, we will see this change because it has been advocated for so long and yet it continues.

The films and the filmmakers did a terrific job in what they did, I don’t want to take away from that and the organizers of this event did a fabulous job putting it together and bringing it to light for all of us. However again we see or I saw maybe no one else did, maybe because I am tired and my heart and soul are tired I saw it, maybe because it is an area I advocate very hard to change I recognize it. There it was four beautifully done films, but again all done around the more aged, those in a later stage of dementia, feeding right into the stereotyping that we fight so hard to change. The underlying stories were great the points they highlighted terrifically, but it also keeps the stereotype and the stigma about what dementia looks like going.

Again I am grateful for those who made the films, to those who put the film festival together, but it sure highlights why we are tired.

Those of us living with Dementia are trying to be heard, trying to help those who want to help us, who say they want to learn from us, and many do and are, and for all those I am grateful.

But still, I am tired, we have had many discussions lately ( those of us living with dementia), about how so many, even many who are close to us, don’t believe we can learn new things that we can and do have the ability to retrain our brain in how to do things we once did but lost the ability to, and if we do and can then it must be because we don’t really have dementia. Yet for all of us, we are as my friend Janet says “our own lab rats”, we are the ones trying and proving not only to ourselves and each other that we can and do adapt and learn new ways to do old ingrained habits, from simple how we put our socks on or tie our shoes to the more complex how we manage to shop, and cook, etc. Somehow despite all the adverse ways knowingly or unknowingly that people affect us we keep fighting for change, for understanding for a better way forward.

Even for me, because in conversations I have such trouble putting y thoughts and words together, I write, its a gift my dementia has given me, it has helped me find a skill I did not have before so that I could still express myself that otherwise I no longer can. It is the gift that I will be ever grateful for, even though I don’t know when or if it will be taken from me either.

It’s all exhausting, and I’m grateful to all those who advocate as well, they are the ones that keep me going.

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Wars, Depression, and Pandemics

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There are moments in time that change the world for those living in that particular space of time. Things like wars, depression, and pandemics, and here we are in 2020, again in one of those spaces of time, the world has been hit by a pandemic.

This has and is creating havoc for all, fear, uncertainty, apprehension. None of us like living with the unknowns, we have become creatures that like to control. We have also become creatures who exhibit a lot of self-interest and carry a great amount of entitlement. We became a society that has based ourselves largely on materialistic ideals, bigger, better, more, more, more.

I hear people talk about their rights and that the lock down’s happening are against their right, they want to shop, to buy whatever types of goods they want when they want. That’s a frightening thing for me, they say they are worried about businesses surviving, and that they don’t want anyone controlling what they can do and when. Yet when you peel back the layers that’s exactly what has happened, people were controlled without realizing it, big business, commercialism, brainwashed people into believing they needed things, had to have the latest greatest of this that, and the other thing. That we needed to buy the next greatest thing out for our kids because Sally’s parents down the street were making sure she had, they convinced us to climb onto this fast-moving conveyor and run to have more, that we no longer could sit and relax at home, we needed to shop at all hours of the day and night, all days of the week.

So truly now that there is a pandemic, and we are being told we can’t do those things ( totally unnecessary things), that keep people in debt, stressed, and only keep the big players making more and more money, people are are willing to or unable to see the very thing they are fighting ( being controlled), is the very thing that has happened.

Hearing people say things like Christmas will be ruined is most unbelievable, Christmas was never supposed to be about shopping, and scrambling and robbing people to have the best gifts under the tree. Hearing that just confirms to me how truly sad the state of being we as humans are in.

Wars, depressions, pandemics of the past, have shown us that in order for us to thrive we must first face adversity and change. We are in a great time of change. We are at a crossroads, are we willing to forgo the human element, do we care more about our right to indulge ourselves in commercialism, that we are willing to refuse to do what we know will help and protect ourselves and our families? Have we become the society that has placed such little value on human life? Have we lost the ability to do what we must for the greater good? Yes, some businesses will not survive others are thriving, new ones are finding their way, others are adapting to new ways. We don’t want anyone’s business to fail but we must not let commercialism take precedence over taking care and looking after our very beings. For if we fail to look after the people the businesses will not survive anyways.

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I was on the same trajectory as everyone else, I rode the conveyor along with everyone, that is until my Dementia hit, it was like being swept away in a tsunami, being washed ashore in unfamiliar territory. Through that, I started to have to survive the multitude of losses, and they keep coming. But I have survived the many changes and challenges, and know as I walk through the uncharted time of walking through a pandemic, I know have a new uncertainty, trying to keep myself safe, knowing if things get really bad that I could be one of the ones if I get sick who end up being triaged and not getting the care because of my diagnosis.

Yet I don’t and can’t live with that fear, I have to look at doing all I can to stay safe, and in doing so it means I am also doing all I can to protect others. I am determined to come out the other end of the pandemic, and yes there will be an end just like war, depressions, and other pandemics there will be an end. I have to stay positive, I live alone, I have no one to help keep me calm, to help me destress, so I have to work hard at keeping myself in a good place mentally and as physically well as I can.

In past times, they did not have the ease of news any time of day or night, or the briefing by our public health, people heard through newspaper and through other people bringing the news from other areas and new what to do, and they did what they needed to do. It saddens me that we know have to be told and when told we want to create unrest over it, instead of pulling together and doing everything we can to help all get through this time.

This means I look to the future, and hope that as we move out of this we come out with a world that is less hurried, less about greed, more about helping, caring and making the world a brighter happier place. Where we place the value back on the human being instead of $$$, things and stuff. Where our elders are looked up to and everyone ensures they are looked after, where we can walk down our streets and around our neighbourhoods feeling safe and knowing our neighbours long before a catastrophe happens in our lives or theirs. Where we hold the door open for someone, where we are not to busy to stop and help.

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Yes, those things still happen, we see people pull together to help, most of us have felt the kindness that can and does surface, but I hope after this pandemic it becomes the norm. I hope we go back to The small mom and pop businesses thriving, I’ve never liked big box stores. I hope as and when we come out of this pandemic knowing full well life will be forever changed because of it and because change is part of life, we see the human piece be the piece that super cedes all else.

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Waking up Happy and Grateful

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This morning I woke up to receive the go-ahead to share and post an interview done last week by Hanh Brown of Boomer Living, they have published it now so I am happy to share it with you all. I really enjoyed this interview and have since been asked to take part in a virtual event in December that Boomer Living is doing and I will be doing a short speech. I take all of these interviews, speaking engagements, and the work I do very seriously, I also understand the importance of being my true and authentic person in all these things.

I do it for no other reason than to try to bring awareness, change, and hope to others, to make a difference. I don’t want to waste my life feeling sorry for myself, wallowing in self-pity, using my eneg=rgy in all positive fashion, helps me live my best life, despite living with Dementia.

So I am grateful for those who have helped me in my pursuit to help others, by promoting my book, doing interviews, providing me speaking opportunities.

I know the day will come when those things will no longer be possible. I can hear in this interview, how my dementia is changing, I hear my mistakes, dates wrong, the hesitation in speaking trying to find and formulate the words, yes, I see them, I hear them, I live with them. But I do not let them stop me from my desire to be a voice for those who have or cannot use theirs, I think about all those people each and every time and try to right by them. I feel a sense of responsibility.

No there is no glory, no accolades, there is no need for those things, if it was the goal to attain those things, I would have taken up acting or singing or something. This is about contributing in a meaningful way during my time here.

Life is short and fleeting, to know that when the end is here I have done my best to make the world a little better in some small way, means that I have lived, and that is enough.

Thank you, Hanh Brown and Boomer Living, this was a beautiful start to the day.

You can listen here:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6ikuvQ02iN4 https://apple.co/3fyacft, https://bit.ly/3nKd386

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Feeling for Friends in uncertain times

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I live in Canada, but I have many friends to the south of me, many friends that live in the USA. Many people here in Canada have connections to people in the USA, and for most even if they aren’t connected they are watching today. Canadians have always paid attention to what’s happening south of us because we now what happens there impacts us here.
But more than that this time we are watching and worrying because of the all to real fear of civil unrest or even civil war, depending on how this election unfolds.
I won’t weigh in on the political aspect, per say, but I will say it has caused me to become somewhat dismayed and disappointed in humans. I cannot wrap my head around the fact that people get so entrenched ( brainwashed if you will ), that they will behave in manners that are unthinkable to me.

Oh I believe in the right to protest ( peacefully), I believe in using our voice for change, but when we become so entrenched in basically I will call it right or left, that we loose our ability to think and behave first and foremost as a good and decent human being, then we have truly lost something. I have watched grown men and woman talk and behave in ways that all I can think is dear god I hope they aren’t raising children.

The unrest is frightening for those of us watching, if you look back at history all great countries fall, is this one of those times? I worry about my friends and their families they are good, kind, hardworking people, they have the stress of a pandemic that is out of control there, and they have the election.
I was brought up in a time when we didn’t discuss politics, you listened you learnt and you decided who you would vote for and you quietly went to the polls and cast your vote. Most husbands and wife’s didn’t even discuss it, they respected the right for them to each vote on their own, they respected the sanctity of their marriage, so it was a topic that was off the table. I after watching the behaviour of people who taught themselves as “ good people”, am wishing that was still the way it was. That people went about their lives being good and decent humans, who went and voted on voting day, knowing if the vote didn’t go the way they hoped they would have the chance to change it in a few years and then they got back to the business of being good decent humans.
They say things always get worse before they get better, perhaps that’s true, they say whatever happens south of us is going to have a big impact on us, political parties rise and fall, and I just hope and pray that it doesn’t create in us the inability to be decent human beings above all else.
So to all my truly wonderful friends south of the border know we are watching, we are thinking of you, we are praying decency wins.

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Bringing the conversation to you

Hosted by Noelannah Neubauer with Special guest Janet Douglas

A very special event that will enlighten uplift and bring insight to all those working in Dementia, to those living with Dementia and all those who have been touched by Dementia.

You will hear from Noelannah as a researcher, and from Janet, a person living with Dementia and others, about the importance of sharing information and how Dementia is not what is percieved by many.

I so look forward to talking and sharing parts of my book, hearing the prospectives of Noelannah and Janet, and others who may wish to share.

the link is in the invite….. MARK YOUR CALENDARS

Thank you to Noelannah and Janet for all your hard work