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Feeling for Friends in uncertain times

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I live in Canada, but I have many friends to the south of me, many friends that live in the USA. Many people here in Canada have connections to people in the USA, and for most even if they aren’t connected they are watching today. Canadians have always paid attention to what’s happening south of us because we now what happens there impacts us here.
But more than that this time we are watching and worrying because of the all to real fear of civil unrest or even civil war, depending on how this election unfolds.
I won’t weigh in on the political aspect, per say, but I will say it has caused me to become somewhat dismayed and disappointed in humans. I cannot wrap my head around the fact that people get so entrenched ( brainwashed if you will ), that they will behave in manners that are unthinkable to me.

Oh I believe in the right to protest ( peacefully), I believe in using our voice for change, but when we become so entrenched in basically I will call it right or left, that we loose our ability to think and behave first and foremost as a good and decent human being, then we have truly lost something. I have watched grown men and woman talk and behave in ways that all I can think is dear god I hope they aren’t raising children.

The unrest is frightening for those of us watching, if you look back at history all great countries fall, is this one of those times? I worry about my friends and their families they are good, kind, hardworking people, they have the stress of a pandemic that is out of control there, and they have the election.
I was brought up in a time when we didn’t discuss politics, you listened you learnt and you decided who you would vote for and you quietly went to the polls and cast your vote. Most husbands and wife’s didn’t even discuss it, they respected the right for them to each vote on their own, they respected the sanctity of their marriage, so it was a topic that was off the table. I after watching the behaviour of people who taught themselves as “ good people”, am wishing that was still the way it was. That people went about their lives being good and decent humans, who went and voted on voting day, knowing if the vote didn’t go the way they hoped they would have the chance to change it in a few years and then they got back to the business of being good decent humans.
They say things always get worse before they get better, perhaps that’s true, they say whatever happens south of us is going to have a big impact on us, political parties rise and fall, and I just hope and pray that it doesn’t create in us the inability to be decent human beings above all else.
So to all my truly wonderful friends south of the border know we are watching, we are thinking of you, we are praying decency wins.

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Advocates Advocating Christine Thelker © 2020 Dementia Event For This I Am Grateful Living well with Dementia Silver Linings

Bringing the conversation to you

Hosted by Noelannah Neubauer with Special guest Janet Douglas

A very special event that will enlighten uplift and bring insight to all those working in Dementia, to those living with Dementia and all those who have been touched by Dementia.

You will hear from Noelannah as a researcher, and from Janet, a person living with Dementia and others, about the importance of sharing information and how Dementia is not what is percieved by many.

I so look forward to talking and sharing parts of my book, hearing the prospectives of Noelannah and Janet, and others who may wish to share.

the link is in the invite….. MARK YOUR CALENDARS

Thank you to Noelannah and Janet for all your hard work

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Advocates Advocating Christine Thelker © 2020 Dementia Event For This I Am Grateful Living well with Dementia Silver Linings

The things that make the hard days easy

Today the above event was announced, today I did a 45 minute interview with David Harvey of Dementia Dialogues, that will air on November 9th. Yesterday my neighbors called an ambulance and I spend the day in hospital having X-rays, Scans of my head, Ivs running, multitude of medications given, many tests run, you see I’ve been unwell since the 29th of September, yesterday another event ( that’s what I call them, because was it a true TIA, one of the many silent strokes I suffer, or a combination, does it matter, a major stroke didn’t happen because of quick responses, today my internist called I have to be at cardio/ pulmonary at the hospital at 815. I’m hoping to be home in time for a 10 am meeting with the Canadian Consortium of Neurodegenerative on Aging ( CCNA). I’ve missed a lot of things over the last month, that never makes me feel good, but I still have been pulling up my big girl panties, and try to manage one thing a day.
That’s hard for me, it’s hard for many of us with dementia when our brain and bodies aren’t letting us do all the things we want and hope to, or to do them to the caliber we want from ourselves. The others I have met with dementia, the other advocates I have come to know all seem to put high expectations on ourselves. We truly need to learn to applaud ourselves more for how much we really do get done. We also need to allow ourselves down time when we need it, after all we do live with a terminal illness.

The thing is people like Noelannah Neubauer and Janet Douglas who have worked so hard to put the upcoming event together while I was and am doing all I can to turn the corner once again in my dementia journey. I’m battling for another decent run of functioning.

People like David Harvey, people like Kelly here in Vernon, who is putting together a similar event on December 15th, more details to come later, these people who not only support my efforts to make a difference for people living with dementia, they inspire me to keep going.

Having a reason to keep pushing forward is important, it’s important for everyone and for many of living with dementia having that purpose pulls us through the dark and hard days. It at times seems that it would be easier to give in to our illness, but feeling that way that doesn’t feel good, so it’s not an option not yet any ways. So for now I’ll spend what energy I have working with my much loved Colleague Kate Swaffer and DAI, I’ll continue to work with CCNA, with Alzheimer’s Disease International, with TREC, and with Agewell, and others, in an effort to see real change.

I will continue to do all I can to look after myself as best I can, and I will be grateful to neighbors who check on, to friends that drop and run to do what they can when I endure another downturn or hospital visit.

I will be grateful to those who are giving of themselves to help and give of themselves so that I can continue to use my voice.

I hope you’ll join us on November 12, for what will be an enlightening and uplifting event.

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My next book signing event

Thank you to Remax Centre City Reality and the Gathering Tree Restaurant for sponsoring me and this event, so looking foreword to Seeing everyone

Please join me at my next book signing event September 15, in Valemount, BC